I bought a few different charts today for my kids. I find myself 'threatening and repeating' lately and I am trying to come up with a more effective method of motivating my kids. For those of you who are not familiar with the term 'threatening and repeating', it simply means constantly saying things like: 'If you don't stop hitting your brother I'm going to put you in timeout!' or 'Be quiet or you won't get a sucker.'. There are many variances to this fruitless repeating of threats. It is an easy rut to fall into and now I am trying to find a more effective tool for Mommy to use.
I bought these charts in hopes that I can use positive reinforcement rather than the threats. I do not always have this problem, it just seems to slip into my world little by little until I have given the power over to a 3 year old and a 2 year old. We can all see how deadly that can be!
Now is time for a few questions! Do you use rewards or charts to teach your kids self-control/responsibility or anything else? If so, once the child earns a sticker, do you have a set prize each week, what is your time line for the reward? How do you implement this tool? It may help me if you share a method you find effective with your kids.
I am always looking for ideas to get out of ruts I fall into! We are not having major issues, I just want to get out of this bad habit while my kids are still obedient! I know my son is too young to understand this, but if my daughter begins to respond to this method, my son usually complies!
I bought these charts in hopes that I can use positive reinforcement rather than the threats. I do not always have this problem, it just seems to slip into my world little by little until I have given the power over to a 3 year old and a 2 year old. We can all see how deadly that can be!
Now is time for a few questions! Do you use rewards or charts to teach your kids self-control/responsibility or anything else? If so, once the child earns a sticker, do you have a set prize each week, what is your time line for the reward? How do you implement this tool? It may help me if you share a method you find effective with your kids.
I am always looking for ideas to get out of ruts I fall into! We are not having major issues, I just want to get out of this bad habit while my kids are still obedient! I know my son is too young to understand this, but if my daughter begins to respond to this method, my son usually complies!
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I've had the same type of problem with the kids (many of us have variations). Because I knew that my kid's are capable and just needed the motivation, I devised a schedule. This is it:http://ventanawhos.blogspot.com/2007/03/saavy-not-stupid.html
It's been almost 2 months and has worked amazing wonders for, not only the kids, but for my husband and I as well as the extended family. I'm very thrilled.
The "junk" at the bottom of my blog was copied from my brother's website: http://www.forallbelievers.org
Initally, I was going to write some devotions and instructions (cooking, organizing, etc) for young or new moms. I became a Mom about 4 months after my 20th birthday so the idea was to help others who are in the same situation as I was. So I wanted them to know that all information could be reproduced without permission but I wanted to give credit to my sources. Needless to say, the blog has turned many different ways. I should remove that. =P
Keep droppin' in!! I love it!!
http://www.doorposts.net/charts.asp
This is the site that I use! I hope you find it helpful. They sell products but they also have some freebies to get you started too!
Have a great weekend!
Melodye, I know from teaching that the younger the child is the less time you can expect them to wait for the reward. You have to have reasonable expectations about how long they can go from doing what you ask to getting the reward and knowing why they got the reward. For example, if you want to reward them for picking up their toys, you can't say, "If you pick up your toys all week, then we'll go get ice cream." That's too long of a time period for them to wait for the reward. You could give them a little reward after they clean up their room every day for the first two weeks, then when you know that they should be able to move to the next step, you could only give them a reward every other day, gradually building up the time that they wait for their reward. Also, I personally love how "growing kids" suggests that you only work on one behavior at a time. That's my 2 cents.
Melissa
Thanks Momma Roar for the website! I wasn't sure it would help but I think it really looks promising! I love all the different charts regarding Christian values!
I am so proud of you as always for coming up with creative ideas to pull the best out of your children. You are a wonderful mother! Just wanted to tell you. LOVE YA
this is cute!
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